We were two weeks away from graduating high school when he asked me to be his girlfriend. There had not been any talking leading up to it. It just happened all at once––unexpectedly and naturally.
Alan and I met over thirteen years ago on our first day of middle school. He was the rambunctious class clown, and I was the “goodie-two-shoes” as my former classmates would say.
Even though he was my first ever homecoming date and my only prom date in high school, we were always just friends.
We encouraged each other when we were in other relationships, and we encouraged each other through the painful break ups.
He quickly became my best friend, and the person I always wanted to talk to.
Before he asked me out, I had also been in a season where I was not looking for a relationship. I had been completely heartbroken in a previous relationship; so my guard was up.
If you’re reading this and you are single, be encouraged. When it’s right, it happens at the least expected moment in your life.
The beauty of waiting is the promise of time well-spent.
Before dating, I experienced a refreshing season of singleness that I loved. It drew me so much closer to the Lord and made me appreciate my friendships and my family so much more. I had a blast because I was able to invest in my personal growth and became a whole person without needing to find fulfillment in an other.
Sometimes what our soul needs is to be stripped away from distractions, so we are able to find our identity in Christ and keep our eyes focused on things above. The Bible encourages us to “not awaken love until it’s the right time” (Song of Solomon 8:4).
Relationships are so good, but timing is absolutely everything.
Out of the thirteen years I’ve known Alan, we’ve only dated for five, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. There was so much maturing that had to take place for us both, and we’re grateful for the process it’s brought us through.
Instead of letting singleness or dating be stressful, enjoy the season in its entirety! Embrace the learning curves and uncertainty.
Relationships are never perfect by any means, but they can be so rewarding when they’re spent with the right person at the right time.