2 Things to Remind Yourself About Saying No
From personal life commitments to work-related offers, saying no seems to be one of the hardest things for me to do sometimes. Can you relate?
*Hundreds of hands raise up*
But seriously, it's tough, especially when you're the type of person that truly cares for people. You automatically want to serve them in the best way you know how; or maybe, it's that you want to support a business or social cause by saying yes to an unpaid freelancing job.
Whatever the scenario, there comes a point in life when we'll realize we can't juggle everything and accept every offer sliding into our direct messages.
Between my sophomore and junior year at university, I came to grips with that fact, and suddenly, I realized there is a freedom that comes with saying the right no. It's equally good and healthy for you!
When you're faced with this conflict, here are 2 vitals things you should always remember:
1. You're worth it.
Your effort, your passion and your time are incredibly invaluable. They are worth being compensated for and being invested in. Don't let insecurity tell you otherwise. By saying no to an unpaid gig or an opportunity that doesn't align with your goals, you're allowing yourself to say yes to the right opportunity that will eventually come at the right time. Sometimes there will be 2,000 offers knocking at our door, and that's great. But they could potentially distract us or keep us from experiencing one really cool opportunity to thrive in something we love and get paid for it!
Know yourself and the type of people you're looking to be associated with.
There are people in this world that will see your work or maybe what characteristics you have to offer and put so much value behind it through investing.
2. No one can look out for you like you can.
I can't tell you how many times I've had to learn this the hard way. As a creative, the tendency to please people becomes difficult to resist, but it starts with who you're surrounding yourself by. The people around you can either make or break the quality of your life.
Ask yourself: "Does this person (I'm choosing to surround myself with) genuinely care to be around me for the right reasons, or does this person call me only for the free favors?"
There is a huge difference between the two.
Surround yourself by those who have seen you at your worst, know you at your best and love you any way, with a genuine, selfless love. An open opportunity doesn't always mean the person on the other side of it is looking out for your best interest.
We can do this. We can say no. We'll be grateful that we did, too.